Misery Loves Company
When you commit to making positive change in your life and you set a goal, you will intuitively start to choose to make some changes in your behavior – you will start doing some things and stop doing others.
It’s wonderful if other people support you as you work toward and realize your goal. Unfortunately, the reality is that sometimes the people to whom we’re closest unintentionally sabotage us. For instance, if you decide that you’re going to lose weight, pursue a new job, stop drinking, pursue a relationship, improve existing relationships, spend time volunteering, or whatever you choose, some of your friends and family may not consciously or subconsciously want you to achieve your goals and they may try to sabotage your success.
Why wouldn't people who love and care about you want you to achieve your goals?
It has very little to nothing to do with you.
It's all about them and they may not even realize it. If you set and achieve your goal, they may fear it will reflect poorly on them if they do nothing when they know deep down that they also need to lose weight, stop drinking, pursue a new job, pursue a relationship or whatever positive change you create in your life. They may also feel that the "new" you will outgrow them. Some people choose to lift others up, others prefer to keep them right where they are. As they say, misery loves company!
In order to achieve a goal, you have to be committed to doing it on our own even if some or all of our friends and family don’t support you. If they support you, that's great. Just be mindful that if family and friends make unsupportive comments in connection with your pursuit of your goal, their comments stem from their issues, set their comments aside and stay true to your goal.
Each day consists of 1,440 minutes. Will you use your time to live within the parameters your family and friends set for you or will you create the life YOU want to experience?
It's your life so, as always, the choice is yours.